Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

Will you get tricked or treated? The dictionary defines trick as an act or a procedure intended to achieve an end by deceptive or fraudulent means. One of the definitions of treat is to give (someone or oneself) something pleasurable. Often pleasure is considered the treat and the denial of pleasure the trick. The truth is often the reverse. Short term pleasure often results in long term pain. A bag full of instant pleasure often rots out teeth, promotes diabetes and adds unhealthy weight. A bed full of pleasure can ruin marriages, cause unwanted pregnancy and disease. A bottle or syringe full of pleasure can cost you your job, reputation and freedom. Trick or treat was not the original nor current deception. The real trick is Trick AND Treat.

Falling in Love Educational Resources The Real Reasons We Do, and Why It Doesn’t Last On this page: •A new definition of love: Real Love •What we do without Real Love: Imitation Love •Falling in love: the nature and effect of Imitation Love •The real reason relationships fail •Freedom There are few conditions to which more books and movies have been devoted—and few subjects that fascinate us more—than falling in love. We think about it, talk about it, hope for it, fantasize about it, go to great lengths to achieve it, and feel that our lives are incomplete without it. But we really don’t understand it. Research has revealed which parts of the brain are stimulated when we’re “in love.” Most of us know how it feels to fall in love. But we don’t understand why we fall in love or—perhaps more importantly—why we seem to fall out of love with distressing regularity. In order to understand falling in love, we must first understand the most important human need. The most i

September 21, 2009 Walking with Two Legs I received the following letter from a member of the Real Love community, and I offer it to you without comment: In its simplest form the path to Real Love—and the lasting peace and happiness it produces—can be summarized as follows: Tell the truth (about yourself). Be seen. Feel accepted. Feel loved. Start over with telling the truth and repeat for the rest of your life. When we step into the Real Love process we usually enter it because we are in pain, and because we have been in and out of pain so many times in our lives that we’re confused. We’re looking for solutions, and although we’ve received partial answers from many sources, we still haven’t found what we’re looking for. Real Love provides those answers. We’re in pain because we are empty, alone, and afraid. In order to eliminate this pain, we then chase the only things that have ever made us feel better, even though the results are temporary: praise, power, pleasure

Why is it so important to tell the truth about ourselves? As I travel and share real love with folks, I realize that the toughest thing we can do is tell the truth. We have become so ritualized and formatted to protect ourselves that we live in the lies. We cannot see them at all. The world has told us (failed us) that if we tell the truth we will be shunned, turned away, unliked or worse unloved. The world has taught us to KNOW this on a very deep level. Almost intuitively we know that we cannot be loved for who we are. So we sit with a dilemma. We are addicted to a facade. We don't even know that survival has become the order of the day. We have these behaviors that guarantee our own demise. What is it that we are doing? When we don't tell the truth about who we really are we cannot find those gold nuggets, those people who can love us for the good, bad and ugly of who we are. If the 3 things we need to be happy are: be loved, be loving and be responsible, then how can we eve

Finding Real Love As people learn the principles of Real Love, they almost uniformly ask how they can find and feel the real thing. They want to feel the actual power of Real Love. Fortunately, there are so many course of actions we can take to find Real Love and experience its healing power. 1. Study. Read the book Real Love . Watch the Essentials of Real Love online or on the six-DVD set . The more we study these true, lifegiving principles, the more we tend to feel the power that emanates from them. 2. Participate in the chat rooms and forums offered here on RealLove.com. There you can tell the truth about yourself and feel the acceptance from those who can see, accept and love you. At pre-specified times during the week you will have free access to trained Real Love Coaches in the chat rooms. This service can cost over $100 on other websites, while we provide it to you, FREE. We want everyone to experience the life-changing benefits of Real Love Coaching . This unique benefit wil