Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

A General Theory Of Love reveals that humans require social connection for optimal brain development, and that babies cared for in a loving environment are psychological and neurologically ‘immunized’ by love. When things get difficult in adult life, the neural wiring developed from a love-filled childhood leads to increased emotional resilience in adult life. Conversely, those who grow up in an environment where loving care is unstable or absent are less likely to be resilie nt in the face of emotional distress.   When two parents are not on the same page and children don’t have a sense of predictability, a routine they can depend on then they feel a sense of insecurity and anxiety will grow. If one parent is the playful one allowing fun and excitement and only occasionally as that parent is absent often, then they learn to desire that as an addiction. They want the imitation love of fun and excitement over the parent who may be trying to create the sense of real safety they

There was a pivotal day in the life with my son when I knew I had changed long enough for him to know it.   The dynamic needed to now be equalized.     He kept wanting to take it out on me. I got in his face.   (with confidence)    I told him this:      “You don’t get to beat me up forever and be happy.   Learning to love another will make you happy and like it or not there will be things that you will never like about me and that is just tough.   I will make mistakes.   But one thing you know for sure is that I will always try.   So you were victimized.   You don’t get to act like a victim and punish me the rest of your life. If you want to do that, then we won’t have a relationship at all.   I am human and will make mistakes. I am not going to walk on eggshells anymore.”   He got it.   He grew up and learned to love. We cannot teach them to just feel loved.   We have to teach them the reality of loving others and that we are that gift.   Hope that h

The Stars Above I watch over and over again in people’s lives “stars aligning” in a way that can give them the life they have always wanted.  And yet while I can see it and I can tell they can see it too, they run.  They run from the very thing that they want.  They want a way through.  But they are afraid.  They want easy or they want safe.  None of these are possible as they are all an illusion. They have tried everything in the world from sex, money, flirting with danger, pills, rehab, driving fast, endless therapy, anger and shoplifting.  But I will be "gosh darned" if they choose happiness as their first pick.  Why?  Most people have never felt that.  They feel the empty hole of love lost and days gone by.   The hardest thing for a human to learn to do is sit with the pain of our past and meet it head on.  Not because it’s such a scary thing because our brain fights against it.  Our brain will actually go into a panic if you go against the natural protecti

If it sounds like, smells like, looks like, it probably is! Question: If I am choosing to look at, get loved around and heal my core stuff as well as create a higher vibration then there is an intersection where 2 people may no longer align. I can still love them and not choose to be with that energy. So the question is why would one subject themselves to the repulsive vibration again?  Answer: Two ways to heal. Independent of anything that will obstruct the core healing is removed. Unloving atmosphere and our own unloving ways we medicate our pain. Most people do need to do this first. You will not learn to be loving and heal the remaining until you are actually in an intimate relationship, to heal the rest. Anything you find repulsive is a gift for you to go deeper in seeing that your capacity to love is blocked by your own wounds. So yes some people need to heal enough and get rid of enough fear and blame first before they get into a relationship. If you ha