Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

  High Heel Foot Prints I met an older Polish woman in a blood lab of all places.  I was waiting to get some blood drawn.  She was very elegant, although her body had clearly shown signs of the years gone by.  Much as you can imagine by the image shown here.  Her whole body was failing her.  She had on very fashionable clothes with a glitzy hair comb in her hair.  You could tell that she tool a lot of pride in her looks as her make up was applied with great care.  He outfit was stunning.  She walked with a cane and sat down across the room from me.  I noticed that she kept staring at me.  I was dressed up with makeup on and in high heels, a long skirt and a top that made me look very curvy and classy.  I was reading a magazine and she whispered to me, "miss, miss.....you are very beautiful, so beautiful".   I thanked her and moved across the room to speak to her.  I sat next to her and she admired my high heels and told me stories about how she used to have

The Meaning of 70x7 The name 70x7 is synonymous with God's eternal forgiveness. Matthew 18:21-22 in the new King James version of the Bible reads: Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." How do you use this as a spiritual practice?  Does the action of practice help us get closer to feeling loving and forgiving?  For me it's an ongoing journey.  If you think you do not have any un-forgiveness, stop and re-think that.  This is something that makes me stop and think "ouch", I still have some unloving thoughts at times about others.    David and I both wear these bracelets.  They are a practice tool for us to remember to use this principle to honor those places in us that struggle.  Un-forgiveness hurts my heart.  So when I have a judgment come up for me or an

    MY WAY ..SLOW DOWN TO GO FASTER       Just recently my partner and I were involved with a Co-creation process at New Vision Center and wow, was it spectacular.  Reverend Doctor Kathy Hearn was leading us in a healing experience to become what we want to see in a new minister.    She used a phrase that resonated with me greatly.  We have to slow down to go quickly.  When we want something in our life we need to stop and listen to the divine within.  As a practice in my life, I am not good with the discipline, at all, with daily meditation.  But long before any spiritual awareness of any definition of it, I used this in my life.    I would stop.  The indicator for me was something didn't feel good.  It could be a job for instance, and as a single mom, I would have friends who would say, "are you nuts? You just quit your job without another one".    I would just quit my job and sit...I had no idea why or what I was doing.  But I did know that s

The last couple of months have been really interesting.  I have gotten a lot of attacking emails saying "how dare I teach what I do"?  People who do not agree with my way of being in the world.  I know that they are describing their own pain or process or way of thinking at the moment.  The journey is always about their own un-acceptance of things that scare them or they cannot control.  I am the strong one, the one who can see the truth.  But the truth is....I feel, I stuff, I make sure everyone else around me is ok first.  I neglect my own care.  I have always been this way.  I was made caretaker of my family as a little girl.  I let my feelings sit on a back burner.  I shoved it down.  It was killing me. Silly me.  I was starting to explode on my partner.  I felt rage inside for all the things he was or wasn't doing to me or for me. And the miracle that came from this is that as soon as someone knocked down my wall, I felt completely different.  I am

I am truly one in God with my partner.  There is no separation  between us in the good, bad, or the ugly.  There is so much beauty in the conflict we share.  Sometimes it's cutting, sometimes is slight, and sometimes is just down right stupid.  But the beauty of this dance is while I sit in the midst of chaos of misunderstandings and behaviors driven by perceived pain, I find peace.  I hear a higher calling for my goodness.  I hear the whisper of God every day, telling me that this is releasing me from the pain of my past and is calling me to a higher faith.  I recall 18 years ago Reverend Michelle did a sermon and spoke to my heart and changed my life.  She spoke of duality that is created by the pain in our minds.  She said there is no such thing as good or bad happenings in our lives, but everything has singleness of purpose, everything is for our higher good, God is in everything. She said, "It's not a freight train coming to run you over.  It's light at

It has to be me. Sitting up in the middle of the night, withdrawn from my partner because like him, I am weary.  The crossroads is always right there in front of me.  And sometimes I just want to choose the easy way.  The "Road Less Travled" at times seems like one I am not ready to travel.  Why does it always have to be me to be the leader, to take the next right step?  To be the one who will be loving first.  Why?  I love with someone who has had great trauma.  I am one who understands trauma.   I have had my own and I deal with others every day who have experienced great trauma.  But my guy, well, he has experienced more than most.  His PTSD is pretty strong.  His fears cause him to knee jerk in some pretty big ways.  He destroys things in his path.  His heart is huge.  His reactions strong and not always loving.  It is exactly like the example of the drowning man.  When he is in fear he cannot hear anything I have to say.  And in those moments when he is acting f