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Happy Father's Day

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGDA0Hecw1k Dear Dad, I write this to you today because I love you so much. I have no greater gift to give you. I wanted to tell you the awareness that I have gotten in this life because of the work I do and have done on myself. When we were growing up, mom was a bit broken, hurt from past experiences. She caused a lot of upset, pain and discomfort to us all. I get she was hurting. But what I learned as child was appalling. What I remember is that “you were to blame”. Therapist, counselors used to say that Dad was the problem. He was mean. They actually trained our minds to not love you or dislike you. It is horrifying to get those kind of signals. So what I have learned is that everyone has behaviors that are less than loving when they are stressed, fearful, trying to survive this thing called life, with the less than useful tools given during childhood. What the counselors did not tell us, was that everyone was broken, h