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Stars Aligning


The Stars Above


I watch over and over again in people’s lives “stars aligning” in a way that can give them the life they have always wanted.  And yet while I can see it and I can tell they can see it too, they run.  They run from the very thing that they want.  They want a way through.  But they are afraid.  They want easy or they want safe.  None of these are possible as they are all an illusion.

They have tried everything in the world from sex, money, flirting with danger, pills, rehab, driving fast, endless therapy, anger and shoplifting.  But I will be "gosh darned" if they choose happiness as their first pick.  Why?  Most people have never felt that.  They feel the empty hole of love lost and days gone by.

 The hardest thing for a human to learn to do is sit with the pain of our past and meet it head on.  Not because it’s such a scary thing because our brain fights against it.  Our brain will actually go into a panic if you go against the natural protection mechanisms you learn to have to survive your childhood.  The alerts start firing like big red warning signs. 

What could be goodness and healing for them smells like the trauma of the past and god knows we don’t want more pain. Unfortunately there are few people who understand they actually have to go against their natural leanings in order to remap those reptilian mechanisms of the brain.  It’s painful and uncomfortable.  And unless you have had enough pain you are not ready.  You are just not ready.

 When the stars align for your highest and best, what are you going to do?  Can you even see that stars aligning?  Will this chance slip by one more time?  And if it does, then you have not had enough pain yet to motivate you to do something new.  

Unfortunately we are driven by pain.  Pain we obey.  Happiness is illusive.  Most people have no idea what that is.  As long as one has a lot of safety, not a lot of responsibility, plenty of money and pleasure then you can skate and ignore the empty hole of one’s real dreams never coming true or just a sense of peace when large challenges come.

 Sometimes it’s hard to watch, the stars align for someone else and they say no...one more time.  Yet I have a deep faith that there is always another calling, another time.  Love never fails and never gives up.

You always have a choice. So I know the choices are always there.  The stars are always in alignment for our highest and best.  All we have to do is ask.  Ask and it is given.  Look closely enough and you will see the stars aligning.

Sharon Winningham, ULLC  


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