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Telling the truth

Why is it so important to tell the truth about ourselves?

As I travel and share real love with folks, I realize that the toughest thing we can do is tell the truth. We have become so ritualized and formatted to protect ourselves that we live in the lies. We cannot see them at all. The world has told us (failed us) that if we tell the truth we will be shunned, turned away, unliked or worse unloved. The world has taught us to KNOW this on a very deep level. Almost intuitively we know that we cannot be loved for who we are.

So we sit with a dilemma. We are addicted to a facade. We don't even know that survival has become the order of the day. We have these behaviors that guarantee our own demise.

What is it that we are doing?

When we don't tell the truth about who we really are we cannot find those gold nuggets, those people who can love us for the good, bad and ugly of who we are.

If the 3 things we need to be happy are: be loved, be loving and be responsible, then how can we ever be loved and feel loved if we know no one really knows us. REALLY? Really.

We must take a risk. Line up a million people and tell it like it is and let those who can love us step forward. I love the saying that we should not avoid rejection but get to it quickly, move through it more quickly to find those who can love us.

I am flawed and still walk around with an armor on. I have so much from a lifetime that has hurt. But I have learned to spot people without behaviors therefore having capacity and lack of drama in their own life that can love me. And that has made all the difference in the world.

If you think you want more love = Happiness, then take a chance. Tell as many people as possible who you really are. If you don't you are cheating yourself. You are cheating the world by never living to your potential. I love. I am loved. I am loving. I am responsible for all of it!

And so it is. Sharon

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