There was a pivotal day in the life with my son when I knew
I had changed long enough for him to know it.
The dynamic needed to now be equalized.
He kept wanting to take it out on me. I got in his
face. (with confidence)
I told him this:
“You don’t get to beat me up forever and be happy. Learning to love another will make you happy
and like it or not there will be things that you will never like about me and
that is just tough. I will make
mistakes. But one thing you know for
sure is that I will always try. So you were victimized. You don’t get to act like a victim and punish
me the rest of your life. If you want to do that, then we won’t have a relationship
at all. I am human and will make
mistakes. I am not going to walk on eggshells anymore.”
He got it. He grew up
and learned to love.
We cannot teach them to just feel loved. We have to teach them the reality of loving
others and that we are that gift.
Hope that helps. Sending
love today.
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