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If it sounds like, smells like, looks like, it probably is!


Question:


If I am choosing to look at, get loved around and heal my core stuff as well as create a higher vibration then there is an intersection where 2 people may no longer align. I can still love them and not choose to be with that energy. So the question is why would one subject themselves to the repulsive vibration again?

 Answer:


Two ways to heal. Independent of anything that will obstruct the core healing is removed. Unloving atmosphere and our own unloving ways we medicate our pain. Most people do need to do this first. You will not learn to be loving and heal the remaining until you are actually in an intimate relationship, to heal the rest. Anything you find repulsive is a gift for you to go deeper in seeing that your capacity to love is blocked by your own wounds. So yes some people need to heal enough and get rid of enough fear and blame first before they get into a relationship. If you have not done enough healing there first you will keep seeing the "other" through a lens of blame versus a gift. Plain and short answer.

We can’t really be "happy and peaceful" in relationship until we unequivocally, absolutely own that any emotional reaction is ours. That we do not blame anything or anyone for the pain of our past that rises as a gift. If someone else can be with a thing then you could too if you were not wounded. So it's that belief that allows for growth. No ego, the pathway for learning. Otherwise we just get the same lessons over and over again.

Using the word repulsive in general shows judgment.  If I love and can see all humans as growing, learning and at times falling down in behaviors that do not serve them or mankind, I am in a position to have compassion.  "Repulsive", begs the question..."Where is the love?".  Still smells like... ,looks like...probably is! 

Happy Growing!  Sharon

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