Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

How does real love make a difference? Shane, my son, came in to my room at 3:00 am this morning. Keep in mind he is 19 years old. He said he needed something. I said, “what’s up?” He said, “Mom, I took a cab home because I had a couple of drinks at the party I went to and I didn’t want to drive.” I said, “ok, good choice.” (I thought he was asking me for money next to pay the driver) He proceeded to tell me that the cabbie was downstairs waiting for him because he needed a “Real Love” book. I kind of shook my head trying to wake up, take in what he had just said and said “what?” He said the cabbie was from Somalia and spoke very little English but was reading a book about relationships. Shane said the cabbie was very down and spent time telling him about real love. Shane asked, “Please Mom, can I gift him a book?” So I said, “of course” .  He said "I will pay for the book." So he went back downstairs and was gone for a while. I am amazed at a boy, who at age 14, wa...

There is complete freedom with being ok with being flawed with ourselves and others. That is what unconditional love is. And in that is the ultimate freedom. When we can see that others are doing the best they know how, to see their behaviors as empty and drowning, its easier to not take it personally but to move to having compassion. Compassion is freedom. Everytime we are upset with someone we are saying " there is no love in the world but the tiny piece you are withholding from me right now". This is simply not true. The truth is there is an infinite supply of love waiting for us. The freedom comes from knowing where to get it, knowing who does have it for us and having complete compassion for those who don't. Flaws are the gifts that help us learn. We need each other to see ourselves. We are flawed. We are human. and I am ok with that.............