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How does real Love show up?

How does real love make a difference?


Shane, my son, came in to my room at 3:00 am this morning. Keep in mind he is 19 years old. He said he needed something. I said, “what’s up?” He said, “Mom, I took a cab home because I had a couple of drinks at the party I went to and I didn’t want to drive.” I said, “ok, good choice.” (I thought he was asking me for money next to pay the driver)

He proceeded to tell me that the cabbie was downstairs waiting for him because he needed a “Real Love” book. I kind of shook my head trying to wake up, take in what he had just said and said “what?”

He said the cabbie was from Somalia and spoke very little English but was reading a book about relationships. Shane said the cabbie was very down and spent time telling him about real love. Shane asked, “Please Mom, can I gift him a book?” So I said, “of course” .  He said "I will pay for the book."

So he went back downstairs and was gone for a while.

I am amazed at a boy, who at age 14, was putting holes in walls with his fist and I was calling the cops to calm him down. I had complete fear of this boy who was then bigger than I and we were spiraling out of control.

Two days ago his best friend, Dillon and Dillon’s girlfriend had a spat. Shane called me and told me he lent her the real love book from my office. Hoped it was ok…….????? OK???? Yeah!

He is a walking referral machine for real love. AND he has never read the book……………

By being loved in a different way, he is naturally being more loved, loving and responsible.

He still makes mistakes, but wow…what a difference. I still make mistakes, but wow, what a difference!

I can’t remember the last time we irritated each other. Out of sight, out of mind……..it’s hard to recall those bitter days.

Real Love melts monsters!

Sharon

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