Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

The Big Idea — (Emotional) Fuel Gauges “When the fuel gauge on your vehicle indicates that the tank is empty, you do not criticize the indicator. You receive the information that it has offered you, and you do something about adding more fuel to your tank. Similarly, a negative feeling is an indicator that your current choice of thoughts has you offering a vibration that is so out of harmony with your Source Energy that you are currently disallowing your full connection to that Energy Stream. (You could say your tank is reaching empty.) Your emotions do not create, but they do indicate what you are currently attracting. If your emotions are helping you know that your choice of thoughts is not taking you in the direction that you desire to go, then do something about that: Replenish your connection by choosing better-feeling thoughts.” ~ Esther & Jerry Hicks from Ask and It Is Given That’s really cool. A big theme of the great book, Ask and It Is Given, is the fact that our ...

Greg's Blog Post on January 10, 2007 In the absence of sufficient Real Love, we tend to marry our partners with the expectation that they will make us happy for the rest of our lives. Regardless of the words actually spoken at the wedding ceremony, what we hear our spouses say is this: “I promise to make you happy—always. I will heal your past wounds and satisfy your present needs and expectations—even when you don’t express them. I will lift you up when you’re discouraged. I will accept and love you no matter what mistakes you make. I give to you all that I have or ever will have. And I will never leave you.” Neither partner is consciously aware of making this bushel of promises, but each partner still hears them and insists that they be fulfilled. When both partners lack sufficient Real Love, however, they can’t possibly make one another happy, and then their efforts to do that yield only disappointment and anger, no matter how hard they try. I have been asked on several...

People are starved for love.  Starved to the point of ruin, anxiety, lonliness, disorders and addictions.  Every day people come to me spiraling out of control and beg "please help me".  I love them and support them.  I give them loving guidance and tell them all the same thing.  The thing that is hardest for every single one of them.   Tell the truth! Truth>Seen>Accepted>Loved The one thing that everyone needs most to do, they can't do it. Why would you not want to be happy and GO AFTER IT WITH A VENGENCE! Here it is:  If you want to feel loved by me, then I have to accept you just as you are.  There is a catch.  I have to be able to see you first to accept you.  But how can I see you thus accept you when you won't tell me who you REALLY are.  Tell the truth!  So let's look at this from another angle.  In order for you to feel really loved you must know I really know you.  In order for you...

This I do know. Being an observer of our own life is only possible when we give up victimhood. Living in the flow allows us take every opportunity to learn and learn some more. What a fun day. We went to the Mall. We wore our Free Hugs t-shirts and WE LEARNED more about real love and ourselves. Each hug or rejection of hug gave us a deeper understanding about ourselves and how we operate in the world. It gave us an opportunity to discuss it with each step we took and each hug we gave. We saw that within ourselves there is an innate fear of rejection, a sense of unworthiness. What if someone says no? Is it really about them or about me? Everyone who joined in the exercise was comfortable at different levels to reach their arms open and approach someone. Those who were fuller found it easier because we did encounter rejection over and over. Then we began to see how open people were and excited to get hugs, as well as people very closed off and could not possibly let anyone in....

CHAPTER THREE THE THIRD PRINCIPLE OF PARENTING When I’m Angry, I’m Wrong Because of their age and inexperience, children are naturally inconvenient in so many ways: • They’re always spilling stuff, falling down, making messes, and getting involved in all manner of “accidents.” • When they get ready for school, clean their rooms, prepare for bed time, or do anything else involving a time limit, they move at a slow and erratic pace rarely compatible with our own schedules. • They’re often unable to perform even the simplest tasks without help or supervision. • They incessantly make unnecessary noises in a wide range of both volume and pitch. • Frequently they are unable to clearly communicate their needs. • When they do express their needs, they are often insistent and demanding. They have no patience. • Everything they do seems to cost money. When we don’t feel sufficiently loved ourselves, these innumerable inconveniences often become more tha...

January 2009 Well, I have truly been the success story. I was getting divorced the first time I went to a Real Love Seminar some four years ago at New Vision (2005) Everything in my life was falling apart. I lost a bunch, especially being a Realtor. I went through the Real Love host training way back when with Reverend Michelle, went to another intensive weekend, continued to grow and now have a thriving, growing, rockin’ out Real Love co-ed group. I still want and yearn to do something with the teen kids. I now find myself 1-2 nights a week visiting with couples, having one on ones talking about the principals. They grow and find happiness……………..WOW……..I am so thankful. During the rough times, I almost lost my son. Ready to put him on a plane to his dad’s, I instead called and got a real love coach. It saved our lives. 2 months with Daphne Rocked! So now today, I live in a loving relationship, married to a man that firmly believes and practices real love principles. I joke with hi...

WHAT IS ADDICTION?—A New Defintion of Addiction Most people associate the word addiction with alcohol or drugs, but that association severely and inappropriately limits the extent of addiction in our society. A new definition of addiction is needed, one which will give us a better grasp of the nature of addiction and will enable us to approach its treatment in a far more productive way. Addiction is the compulsive use of any substance, person, feeling, or behavior with a relative disregard of the potentially negative social, psychological, and physical consequences. This definition of addiction creates a much broader—and more accurate—picture of addiction, which we will demonstrate in much greater detail throughout the remainder of this article. Before we can meaningfully continue our discussion of addiction, however, we must first consider its causes in a new way. WHAT ARE THE CAUSES OF DRUG ADDICTION AND OTHER TYPES OF ADDICTION? Despite all the research done on this ...