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Where will you be in ten years?

What will your life look like in 10 years if you keep it the status quo? What dreams won't have been realized? What relationship will you miss out on? Who will have left your life? Will you still just be getting by? Will you still think that it is your environment rather than your mindset that determines the quality of your life? Will you still be letting other people make decisions for you? Will ...you still be living your life wondering, "what if"?

Today is the day my friends; today is the day to draw a line in the sand and say NO MORE! What B/S thought have you let hold you back? What have other people in your life told you about what's possible - and you believed in? What victim story are you still telling? What story are you telling yourself about your life that you no longer want to believe? What part of the past pain is still living in your heart not able to see love when it's standing right in front of you? What unchecked pain is taking up that part of your heart meant to be expressed?

What would it cost you to keep thinking this way?

I am so thankful for this Real Love community. I am so thankful for the courageous people who take a stand to stand for others. To step up to the plate and swing the loving bat to help us see and tell the truth about ourselves, to make a commitment to you so valuable to be your wise person. To see your pain and help you identify when you are bloodied and blinded by the core pain of your past. To help you see the lies about yourself that you are still living by. To help guide you and help you see when love is really standing right in front of you. Living the pain of the past you are deflecting love away with the protecting behaviors that cause separation. This high level of commitment to live in that space of becoming so loving that you will never help someone stay in the past victim roles for those who want to move out of it.

And to those who come in new, that step into that fear but really commit to exposing the real truth, to let others who have been there to call you out to a place of healing. To look at where you have been unloving due to past pain and protecting yourself. To look deeply at the behaviors you operate from that are protecting and getting, that are selfish and self centered and really deflect love away even when it stands right in front of you. Looking in the mirror is not easy and takes great courage and faith to heal the past wounds. Here is to all of you that take steps daily to learn how to be loved, loving and responsible, to those who have given up the victimhood of the past. This is a tribute to all the wise people who have daily called me on my shit. That protecting myself really deflects the love away I want and hurts others in the process. We can only have this awareness when we are open enough to receive Real Love. Hearing the truth about ourselves and practicing doing it differently. To take the steps daily to see that when we run and protect ourselves that we are really hurting those we love and not letting love in when it’s there for us. There is no connection in the getting and protecting behaviors. And unless we can see that we are doing them, then we are not being loved, loving or responsible to ourselves and others. Light and dark cannot live in the same place at the same time. If there is still pain from the past, you cannot be loving in the present.
When we use getting and protecting behaviors the other person hears “I don’t love you”….no matter what words are said.

Learn about the getting and protecting behaviors that causes all of our relationships to disconnect. www.reallove.com

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