Personal Blog~Sharon Stephens - Life Coach

The Meaning of 70x7 The name 70x7 is synonymous with God's eternal forgiveness. Matthew 18:21-22 in the new King James version of the Bible reads: Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." How do you use this as a spiritual practice?  Does the action of practice help us get closer to feeling loving and forgiving?  For me it's an ongoing journey.  If you think you do not have any un-forgiveness, stop and re-think that.  This is something that makes me stop and think "ouch", I still have some unloving thoughts at times about others.    David and I both wear these bracelets.  They are a practice tool for us to remember to use this principle to honor those places in us that struggle.  Un-forgiveness hurts my heart.  So when I have a judgment come up for me...

    MY WAY ..SLOW DOWN TO GO FASTER       Just recently my partner and I were involved with a Co-creation process at New Vision Center and wow, was it spectacular.  Reverend Doctor Kathy Hearn was leading us in a healing experience to become what we want to see in a new minister.    She used a phrase that resonated with me greatly.  We have to slow down to go quickly.  When we want something in our life we need to stop and listen to the divine within.  As a practice in my life, I am not good with the discipline, at all, with daily meditation.  But long before any spiritual awareness of any definition of it, I used this in my life.    I would stop.  The indicator for me was something didn't feel good.  It could be a job for instance, and as a single mom, I would have friends who would say, "are you nuts? You just quit your job without another one".    I would just qui...

The last couple of months have been really interesting.  I have gotten a lot of attacking emails saying "how dare I teach what I do"?  People who do not agree with my way of being in the world.  I know that they are describing their own pain or process or way of thinking at the moment.  The journey is always about their own un-acceptance of things that scare them or they cannot control.  I am the strong one, the one who can see the truth.  But the truth is....I feel, I stuff, I make sure everyone else around me is ok first.  I neglect my own care.  I have always been this way.  I was made caretaker of my family as a little girl.  I let my feelings sit on a back burner.  I shoved it down.  It was killing me. Silly me.  I was starting to explode on my partner.  I felt rage inside for all the things he was or wasn't doing to me or for me. And the miracle that came from this is that as soon as someone k...

I am truly one in God with my partner.  There is no separation  between us in the good, bad, or the ugly.  There is so much beauty in the conflict we share.  Sometimes it's cutting, sometimes is slight, and sometimes is just down right stupid.  But the beauty of this dance is while I sit in the midst of chaos of misunderstandings and behaviors driven by perceived pain, I find peace.  I hear a higher calling for my goodness.  I hear the whisper of God every day, telling me that this is releasing me from the pain of my past and is calling me to a higher faith.  I recall 18 years ago Reverend Michelle did a sermon and spoke to my heart and changed my life.  She spoke of duality that is created by the pain in our minds.  She said there is no such thing as good or bad happenings in our lives, but everything has singleness of purpose, everything is for our higher good, God is in everything. She said, "It's not a freight train coming ...

It has to be me. Sitting up in the middle of the night, withdrawn from my partner because like him, I am weary.  The crossroads is always right there in front of me.  And sometimes I just want to choose the easy way.  The "Road Less Travled" at times seems like one I am not ready to travel.  Why does it always have to be me to be the leader, to take the next right step?  To be the one who will be loving first.  Why?  I love with someone who has had great trauma.  I am one who understands trauma.   I have had my own and I deal with others every day who have experienced great trauma.  But my guy, well, he has experienced more than most.  His PTSD is pretty strong.  His fears cause him to knee jerk in some pretty big ways.  He destroys things in his path.  His heart is huge.  His reactions strong and not always loving.  It is exactly like the example of the drowning man.  When he is in fear h...

I have never been able to really express it in words what it is like to go deep and really feel.   There is nothing wrong.   About three years ago Taylor and I got divorced.   Instead of putting the pictures away, I used our wedding video to practice feeling, because it was one of the happiest days of my life and I wanted it to stay that way.   I really did not want it to turn into something "bad".   Our whole relationship is a grand lesson and I loved every minute of it.      So I learned to really feel without any fear of it.   I go deep and just experience all feelings at a deep level.   I learned by practicing that none of it hurt me, but made me a woman of depth.   I could hold more of the world in my heart.   So what drove me nuts is when I would share and cry people would say things like "it will be ok", as If something was wrong.   I don't see duality, as right or wrong, good or bad, just is....just fee...

I had blood drawn this morning.  I have always been terrified of needles.  So instead of going to fear, while she was drawing 5 tubes, I just sat there.  I said Sharon what is this for you, where did this come from.  I know when I go deep to feel it, I will have something come up that will be painful.  But I have learned to sit with it, go to the feelings and let it come up so I can move through it.  Tears started to pour down my cheeks.  The lady asked me if I was ok.  You see the world thinks that feeling is something bad.  Nope, I just feel.  And When I do, it moves me .     It moves through me.   Here is what I get to feel.  The pain of when I was a child.  I passed out once when my mom had blood drawn.  I was 8.  She had huge tubes drawn.  ( and I remembered the story) but never as deep as this morning.  Because I choose to ask "Sharon, go deep.... what is it? keep going...