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Gossip as Attacking


Has anyone really discovered as I have, that gossiping under the guise of being seen is attacking?



So sometimes we just gossip when we are empty. This is not respecting other people's privacy and their journey. Usually we do it because we have been hurt by them. Do you see yourself doing this?

We can usually track it back to our own acting like a victim and choices we made.

Also as a part of that victimhood we can also be telling our truths to get seen, but we focus more on the story of what they did and not our own behaviors. I have seen myself do it. That is acting like a victim. So be very careful when wanting to get seen that it is not just a ploy for attacking them (gossiping) telling more of what they did versus what your behaviors were.



I am guilty of it at times. Are you?



As our community get's bigger and bigger and there are more people "finding" each other to date, as the "pool" has gotten bigger, then be very careful that you are not using being "seen" as a way to attack and gossip about others. If you are just gossiping, then see it as attacking and not respecting someone else's journey and get seen for THAT, for what it is, our own attacking behavior when we feel "wronged". (Victim)



So how do you check yourself on this? Anytime we are mentioning someone else, stop and ask yourself, am I being loving right now. What am I really feeling? Why is this important to say? Would the other person appreciate what I am saying right now? Would I say it to their face? Do I need to get seen for my own anger? What am I really feeling and is it about me? Stop, take a pause and feel your heart.



I love you, Sharon

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