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Uncoupling – DIVORCE – the end? Or A Sacred Journey?





Uncoupling – DIVORCE – the end?  Or a Sacred Journey?

Let me makes this perfectly clear.

There is always sadness when something had to end.  People often talk about the five stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. 

Get over it.  You are human and so am I. You are going to feel it all!   It’s been proven that we move through these stages and also predictable that we struggle to move through them, afraid of what is to come.   

We may want to negotiate and cling staying in the loop of not moving forward.   Bottom line is that we are just trying to stave off having to be sad and move on.  We are afraid of the feelings and afraid of the future. 

I just want to say one thing today. Most of us have had hellacious relationships and bad endings.  But just because something ends, it doesn’t mean it’s a horrendous ending.  We grow in every relationship and sometimes it’s time to move on.  Consciously we can do it with love. 

Sometimes we have learned all we can from one person and we must take our leave. 

But our goal in Loving-Groups is to remember we go into all our relationships as loving as we can, while in them we stay as loving as possible and learn our lessons and get our gifts, and go out as loving as we possibly can. 

It’s no longer an automatic “oh no, how aweful for them” that two people may decide to move apart.  We bless that path no matter what that looks like.  Sometimes moving on is exactly what we need to do for the growth of all parties. 

“Conscious uncoupling is a thing we aspire to. I haven’t met one person who has done it perfectly” Katherine Woodward Thomas

We certainly aspire to it! 

Sharon Winningham, ULLC, Founder Loving-groups.org

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