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Wise men speak out on Love!

Can a person feel loved by incoming calls?

Yes, it is possible to feel someone's love via a phone message. Imagine how you would feel, for example if you heard this message on your voicemail: "Hi, Sharon! I was thinking about you at this very moment and wanted to express what a blessing you've been to me. Thanks for teaching and showing me RL."

But your heart is open to such expressions of love, gratitude and appreciation. You can recognize happiness when you see or hear it. You're accepting of the nature of love, its power to heal your own life, and the peace it can bring.

Someone with a pride-filled and hardened heart, however, won't feel anyone's love for as long as they choose to push it away regardless of the medium.

Persistent attempts to smother the hard-hearted with "love" only hardens their resolve to be 'right' because fundamentally we are refusing to accept their choice in that moment to refuse love.

Our constant efforts to change their decisions becomes a source of irritation for them and they only dig their heels in deeper in fighting to hold their ground.
If you model unconditional ACCEPTANCE and don't force what you know to be true and priceless on anyone, this will allow the resistor to 'stew in their own juices' and experience how isolated and alone it will be to reject whatever love is offered. Never stand in the way of someone's 'rock bottom' as it only delays their eventual awakening' is a valuable piece of advice shared with me by a wise person.

Perhaps loving our partner is accepting him as he is with the knowing that we all can choose to learn our life's lessons the hard way, or from the mistakes that others make.

Either way we are destined to learn. It is only for infants and toddlers that we are obligated to make choices for others, but only until they have an appreciation for a particular consequence. We don't allow the immature and incompetent to play with loaded firearms. Adults are allowed to screw up their lives ad nauseum...and we simply love 'em through their learning curves.

There is a very fine line between loving someone and clinging to them--and guess who gets to make that call? It comes down to everyone's perceptions and expectations, doesn't it.

Are we full or empty (needy)? Open or closed? Receptive or resistant? Optimistic or pessimistic? Donkey (Shrek) or Eyore? Accepting or dismissive? Living or dying, metaphorically-speaking.

Emptiness and fear is the source of highly predictable behaviors--when you drown you choke, gasp, and behave in crazy ways. When 'drowning' is preferred to love, however, that is pure selfishness to the nth degree. Everyone else becomes an IT, and an IT is simply an object there to facilitate my selfishness or IT stands in the way of me getting what I want. Or if IT does nether, IT isn't worthy of my time or attention. I move on.

Sad way to live because I am emotionally autistic and unable to really connect with people. Empty, alone, and terrified when I'm not milking an IT for Imitation Love.

-Andy Carillo, CRLC

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