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Dating a dud? Why?

Most of us at one time or another have been faced with the idea of “I am single…AGAIN!” With divorce rates in the toilet and the blame game running rampant, most people have turned to friends, colleagues, parents, grandparents and even expensive dating professional match making companies for advice. And you know what? Most people are still stumped, dumbfounded and deeply discouraged.  

We are met with all kinds of advice including an old favorite book I read years ago call “The Rules”. In the book it lists 35 rules that women who want “marriage, in the shortest time possible” are supposed to follow. As a blogger, Kristin Warkentin, wrote in her blog, “that  written in the 1990’s, it included  advice that was both basic and whimsical, like advice from a well-meaning but slightly unhinged 90-year-old great aunt, offering one of those “pep talks” that actually make you feel worse, rather than better. (“Well you’re no Angelina Jolie, dear, but with the right wardrobe, a more feminine haircut, about 10 fewer pounds, and some minor plastic surgery, there’s no reason you couldn’t convince a man to ask you out.”) There is a kind of old-world charm to it, but really? Thank God we have evolved past asking our 90 year old great aunt. 

Feeling deeply discouraged by advice of how I needed to change myself, I too felt that this was never going to do anything but make me feel even worse about myself.

Then “The Five Love Languages” came out. Revolutionary in it new way of thinking and identifying how we see, give and perceive love. But that still didn’t help. It just continued the cycle of manipulating a relationship in hopes that it worked. “If I give you more of this or that it will fill that empty hole in your heart and then you will love me more.” This book actually helps tremendously to understand yourself and your “other” in a real practical way. But it still leaves the reader believing that you needed to be in performance mode to "get love". 

Most people are still in a mystery as to how to find love, what it really means and how radical responsibility for our own healing plays into the understanding of how to find a partner. 

If you are ready and willing to be in the conversation, then join us each Friday night, 6 PM Arizona time, to talk about how we need to practice looking within, being honest about who we really are, drop all the facades and actually take the right steps to educate ourselves about having a conscious relationship built on connecting through curiosity and giving up the old cliché “You complete me”. 

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Please join us with dating expert Sharon Winningham, ULLC and Founder of Loving-Groups.org.


Sharon A Winningham is an Unconditional Loving Life Coach (ULLC) who has a private practice teaching and coaching people from all over the world applying the life changing principles of Unconditional Love. Sharon does private one on one coaching, interventions and retreats. Sharon has been coaching, training and facilitating Loving Groups since 2005. Her practice includes personal and group sessions specializing in conflict resolution, marriage, parenting, workplace issues, depression, addictions, dating, anger, and teens. She teaches classes and workshops in all areas of relationships. She lives with her partner David Clark, ULLC, who is also a life coach. She is a trained Facilitator for Safe Conversations by Harville Hendrix and is the Director/Founder of Loving-groups.com, Inc.,  a 501(c) 3 Corp. non-profit. www.Loving-Groups.org. An expert in the field of unconditional love, she brings years of life experience and a passion that shines through in a very direct and meaningful way.

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